"How to Get More Sex: 10 easy tips to keep your wife interested in sex every night"

Did you know that 1 in 3 married couples experience a decline in sexual intimacy after just two years of marriage?

This drop in connection often results from a lack of effort, poor communication, and the demands of daily life. If you are struggling to keep the spark alive in your relationship, or you want to enjoy more frequent intimacy with your wife, you are not alone.

According to Dr Raman Sharma, MBBS, MD, MRCP, CCT an expert psychiatrist, who was trained in Cambridge, England, improving your intimate life and having more frequent sex with your wife isn’t about grand gestures or complicated techniques, it’s about making small, meaningful changes to your relationship. From decluttering the bedroom to building anticipation throughout the day, these tips will help you create a stronger, more intimate connection with your partner. Remember, emotional and physical health are key to improving sexual desire and maintaining a thriving relationship.

In this blog, we’ll share 10 simple, actionable tips to reignite passion and make your wife more excited about intimacy. Plus, we’ll show how LuvoMen’s telehealth services can help with any underlying issues. These tips focus on creating emotional connection, improving physical health, and setting the right mood in the bedroom. So, if you Want More Sex? Try These 10 Proven Bedroom Strategies:

1. Build Anticipation Throughout the Day

Amit and Sonia used to only think about intimacy at night. After Amit started sending playful flirty texts and complimenting Sonia’s looks, dresses and intelligence, he was surprise to find that Sonia is more eager to connect by evening.

Getting in the right mood for intimacy doesn’t have to start when you get into bed. You can build anticipation throughout the day by flirting with your wife, sending a sweet text message, or giving her a compliment. Creating this buildup increases excitement and desire.

Tip: Flirt with your wife during the day—send a sweet text, compliment her, or express affection to increase excitement for intimacy later. Create Excitement During the Day.

2. Timing is Everything—Don’t Wait Until You’re Both Exhausted

Deepak and his wife noticed that they often waited until the very end of the night to initiate sex, by which time they were both too tired. They started shifting intimate moments to earlier in the evening when they still had energy, which led to a more active sex life.

If you are in a long-term relationship, you probably leave sex until the very end of the night, when you are both crawling into the bed. This is the worst time to try to have sex, because you are both already exhausted and anytime you spend having sex cut into the precious few hours you have left for sleep. Don’t initiate intimacy at the end of a long, exhausting day, which can result in less energy and lower desire. Timing your intimate moments for when you’re both energized can make all the difference.

• Tip: Don’t wait until you’re both about to fall asleep. Start setting aside time for intimacy earlier in the evening when you’re both relaxed but still energized. Initiate Intimacy Earlier in the Evening

3. Declutter and Create a Relaxing Bedroom Environment

Kapil, a busy IT professional, noticed that his bedroom was always cluttered with work papers and clothes. He realized that this messy environment wasn’t conducive to intimacy. After tidying up and creating a more serene atmosphere, he and his wife felt more connected.

You probably have sex most often in your bedroom. So take a look around your room and see you think it is a place that someone would want to have sex! Does it inspire relaxation, connection and passion or is it messy, cluttered or full of distractions. Your bedroom should not feel like a chaotic space filled with distractions. Take a few minutes each day to tidy up and make the room feel welcoming and ideal for intimacy.

• Tip: Declutter your bedroom and remove things like laptops, and work papers to make it feel like a cozy, intimate space. Make Your Bedroom a Place for Relaxation

4.Avoid Distractions, Especially Phones

Ankit and his wife used to sit in bed at night, each glued to their phones. It wasn’t until they made a conscious effort to leave their devices outside the bedroom that they noticed a big improvement in their connection.

How many times have you tried to connect with your wife only to see her buried in her cell phone. How many times has she accused you of the same. You and your wife are missing countless opportunities to connect with each other. Spending time scrolling through social media or replying to emails can kill the mood. Instead of focusing on your devices, focus on each other.

• Tip: Set a rule to leave phones and other distractions outside the bedroom. Use that time to connect with your wife emotionally and physically. Keep Phones and Devices Out of the Bedroom

5.Let Go of Sexual Perfectionism

Sanjay often worried about performing perfectly during sex, which created anxiety and lowered his desire. After speaking with a LuvoMen sex-therapist, he learned to let go of this pressure and focus on enjoying the moment.

If you are a man you probably think that great sex requires you to have a perfect unflagging erection. You're not supposed to orgasm too soon and you are also not supposed to take too long. If you're a woman you probably think that great sex requires you to have perfectly timed effortless orgasm. After all, who wants to risk the humiliation of an imperfect performance? Many men feel the pressure to be perfect in the bedroom, which leads to performance anxiety. Letting go of this pressure can help you enjoy sex more and reduce the fear of failure.

If you’re struggling with deeper issues like performance anxiety, sexual discomfort, or low libido, LuvoMen’s expert telehealth services can provide personalized advice and solutions.

6.Be Present and Focus on Your Partner

Jafar used to let thoughts of work and his boss fill his mind as soon as he got into bed. Even when his wife initiated intimacy, he would go through the motions but wasn't mentally present. Once he made a conscious effort to stop thinking about work and focus on his wife, he noticed that their relationship became more fulfilling and intimate.

Being mentally present during intimate moments is just as important as setting up the physical environment. When you’re fully present, your partner will feel more appreciated and connected to you. Being attentive to your partner’s needs enhances emotional and physical intimacy.

Tip: Practice mindfulness by focusing solely on your partner during your time together. Listen, engage, and be aware of your partner’s body language and desires. Leave work-related stress outside the bedroom

7. Set the Perfect Mood for Intimacy:

Gurpreet, a 32-year-old marketing executive, noticed that his bedroom felt more like a workspace than a romantic sanctuary. The bright lights, smell and constant noise their bed used to make with movements left them disconnected. After learning about the importance of creating the right atmosphere, Rohit decided to make small changes: dimming the lights, playing soft music, and introducing soothing scents. To his surprise, these simple adjustments significantly improved their connection and intimacy.

Creating a comfortable, inviting atmosphere can enhance intimacy. Focus on dimming the lights for a soothing effect, play soft music to relax the mind, and use aromatherapy with calming scents like lavender or sandalwood to stimulate desire. Invest in soft, luxurious bedding to make the experience more enjoyable and relaxing for both partners. Small changes in ambience can foster deeper emotional and physical connection.

Tip: Know what she likes and set the ambience according to her taste, dim the lights, play relaxing music, and use calming scents like lavender. Invest in soft bedding to create a cozy, sensual environment that fosters emotional and physical closeness. Learn small techniques of a well set ambience

8.Confidence in your appearance and approach:

Sunil was always self-conscious about his thin frame and lack of muscles, feeling that he didn’t have the looks to match his wife’s admiration for actors like Hritik Roshan. He was embarrassed to undress in front of her, which led to a decline in his confidence. After speaking with a doctor at LuvoMen, Sunil realized that it wasn’t Hritik Roshan’s physique his wife desired—it was him, his affection, and their connection. As a result, his sexual life improved.

Your body doesn’t need to look perfect all the time, especially after a long, exhausting day. Don’t fear that your wife’s desire is based only on your appearance. You shouldn’t feel that making an effort to feel attractive means something is wrong in your relationship. Many people have unrealistic expectations of how other people’s sex drive work.

Tip: Confidence in how you look plays a big role in intimacy. Feeling good about yourself, regardless of body type or appearance, can make a huge difference in your connection with your partner. Embrace who you are, and your partner will appreciate your self-assurance and presence. Remember, confidence is often more attractive than physical appearance alone

9.Focus on Your Self-Esteem and Health

Rohit struggled with low self-esteem after gaining weight and dealing with stress at work. After making healthier lifestyle choices and working on his fitness, he felt more confident in himself, and his sex life improved

Your sexual desire is deeply tied to how you feel about yourself. Taking care of your body and mind can help increase your confidence and sexual attraction.

• Tip: Exercise regularly, eat healthy, and focus on stress management to improve your physical health and self-esteem. After making healthier lifestyle choices and working on his fitness, he felt more confident in himself, and his sex life improved. Take Care of Yourself Physically and Emotionally

10. The Initiation and Consideration Process

Vivek and his wife had been together for several years, and he noticed that their desire for sex didn’t always align. He often felt frustrated when his advances were turned down, thinking that the lack of desire was a problem in their relationship. After talking to a LuvoMen expert, Vivek learned that the initiation and timing of intimacy is as important as desire itself. He realized that being in sync with his wife’s feelings and creating the right mood made a big difference in their connection.

You might be surprised to learn that how often you feel the desire for sex isn’t the most important factor in maintaining an active sex life. It’s more about how well you and your partner navigate initiating sex and understanding each other’s readiness. This process, deciding whether to say yes or no is called the “consideration process,” and it requires both partners to respect each other’s boundaries. Gently turning each other down, when needed, can still lead to a healthy sexual connection, and respecting each other’s wishes is key to building intimacy.

Tip: Respect your wife’s wishes, be patient, and focus on creating the right atmosphere for intimacy. Her "No" Means "No"—Respect is Key.

After discovering these 10 practical tips to keep your wife craving intimacy and rekindling your connection in the bedroom, explore how LuvoMen’s telehealth services can support you. Whether you need help with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low testosterone, performance anxiety or simply want to enhance your overall sexual health, we’re here to help you take control of your intimate life.

Take the next step toward a healthier intimate life by booking a telehealth consultation with one of LuvoMen’s expert doctors or completing our free online sexual health assessment for personalized recommendations. Additionally, become a free member to stay updated with similar educational blogs written by the world’s leading doctors.